Some of you are probably already aware of this incident but long story short I made a comment that at least in my mind was about how my ex gets herself into dangerous situations through drinking, and that comment was interpreted as victim-blaming. And you know what? They're right, it is victim-blaming. I didn't mean to imply it, but not only can I easily see it in hindsight but I should've seen it in the first place. I was just trying to convey how much I wish my ex would quit drinking but that doesn't excuse anything on my part.
I had apologized for this before but the apology was refused, but I still want to put it up that I acknowledge that what I had done was shameful and abhorrent to my friends on Jezebel and GroupThink.